September 22, 2006

Tactical Move - Part 1

Actually I had thought about this since yesterday. Did I ever reveal my Tactical Move to anyone? I'm not sure. But even My Closest Friends didn’t know it.

From the beginning of Raya last year, I told my BF (at that moment), that he might want to start meeting my parents. Since we never reveal our relationship to my parents, they also confused caused I never specifically told them with whom I was going out with all this while. So I think it's a good time to start meeting them. My BF rejected my opinion at 1st. Because he said, it's not that he was not serious about ‘US’, but he doesn’t want my parents to think that we are ready to get married. He said to me, he had not enough saving to marry me yet. I was sad. But despite that, I got my own saving as a backup. But of course I didn’t tell him. For that backup, I decided to start my strategically planning to trick my own 'Husband to Be' or what do you think I should call him then? hehehe...

At first, I convinced him, my parents never know about his existents, so why on earth could they want to force us to get married? (Which I also think possible, just to make my BF to come over and meet them with out realizing any consequences) Relationships come with a level. If we are scared to face 1 level how are we going to move on? (Another point I raised up to him) He was already getting nervous about it and I calm him down. This move is to make them know, who I am going out with, where I go, and to show, that you aren’t just some scumbag who will leave their daughter just like that. Just to prove how serious are you in our relationship. Do you think they are going to rise up married issue? No they wouldn’t. So I make him agreed on my points. He was ready. Next move was to get my parents ready.

So on that day that we both decided for the meeting, first I need to make sure my parents are both home. I told my mother, my closest friend which she heard so many times but never know who he was to me, Kuyu, as I called him and addressed him previously, is coming over for Raya. I was planning to tell my mother, Kuyu is going to announced something about me and him to my mother and father. And I hope my mother would understand the double meaning of that statement. That is, our first step of moving towards marriage. You know, for us, as young people, first step means, first step. I am referring to; it’s a first move which didn’t mean that it should lead to the next step as soon. For example, if you are registering yourself to take a Degree, you have to go there, learn, have examinations, assignments, like for 4 to 5 years, and then you will receive your Degree. But for them, especially on the marriage of their children, ok so you introduce him to me, bringing him home, we are kind of like this guy. So you like him too. So why wait? That is a good question. Why WAIT? Which my Kuyu was thinking of the young people first move. Maybe her parents would let us be as a couple for couple of years and let me save up some money seriously now. You are just so wrong my dear. Hehehe.

Just so I’m about to tell her about why he is coming over, my friends are calling me to come over. (Hey korg suke ye dtg2 tak plan cmtu. Tau2 sume dtg sekali gus..Ampesss..ehehehe). So I got busy at no time. So I told my mother, there are a few friends coming over too. Conversation is as below:-

Ummi : Ramai nye kawan nak dtg. Dorg plan ke?
Aku : Tak de la, ntah knape sume nk dtg arini.

Boring betul. Ekekeke. Tp takpela. Maybe you guys could witness my Historical moment. Hehehe. I didn’t remember Kuyu was from where that time. But I think he was coming from his hometown (Sg Besar). He was just back from Raya Holiday something like that kot..hehehe.... So when he reached my house, I was already preparing dishes for my friends. I think Gurl, Matleh, Kelah and Emy was reaching my house first before Kuyu. What a bummer. On this cruciating moment, since i was trying to avoid telling them what is really going on right now, Kuyu reached my house. And as seeing everybody was here, my parents went upstairs. Huhuhuhu. I thought I could make this history become more serious as all of my friends were there. So I remember, after reaching 3pm, all of them were retiring to go back. So Kuyu was getting more nervous. I thought he want to forget about this first move. I was instantly blaming myself to let the friends coming over. But it is Hari Raya! Everybody is coming over. Huhuhuuh. Datang sesuka hati. Hehe. I will feel guilty if I ask them to come some other time. It is Raya, you can come whenever you like. And I don’t want if there is no some other time. So as I went out to send Kuyu to the door, he asks me to follow him to K4 Wangsa Maju. He said, He needs time to calm down. Wah. I felt there is a bright light for me there. So I followed him. We were talking again about the meeting. I was convincing and consulting him. And again I told him not to worry about money if my parents ask him to marry me soon. But I told him how soon could it be? 1 year? We should have enough time. Hehehe…Strategically I was doing that? Could you believe me? As for the record, PLEASE REMEMBER THAT THIS HAPPEN ON RAYA LAST YEAR IT IS NOT EVEN PUASA NOW, AND I AM MARRIED 1 MONTH AGO! So it was not even 1 year, I am married. Alhamdulillah.

So aku dh penat sbenanye..ehhehe..tp takpe..sambung je la sikit je lagi…eheheh

So on the meeting. My mother and father were sleeping at that time when Me and Kuyu left home to K4. But my father usually could feels if anything is not right. So when we got back home, I saw him woke up and instantly open the TV set. So Kuyu went in and seated by my father. They start to talk about what is on the TV. As for Hari Raya, I assumed that my father was OK with that talk. So I went upstairs and called my mother to go down. As everyone is now at the living hall, My father, mother and Kuyu, I went to the kitchen preparing drinks. Kuyu was still talking about sports, my father telling him old stories, about sports. I’m getting tense, my mother is getting bored. Around 6pm, my best friend Ida called up. She told me she wants to come to my house for Hari Raya. She also didn’t want to miss the moment. She never knows about it, but she was the first one to know what the occasions is all about. But she didn’t know, it was my plan for my big day. It’s not just introducing Kuyu to my parents. It had double meaning inside it. Hehehe. Is not that I don’t want to tell you everything, it was just, I never do anything like this, you know when you are planning something, you are anxious and you feel like you want to do it on your own. But she had catched me on the act, but still, for her, although this is still one of the most historical moments of my life. But still, it was just A step which she thought as the same as Kuyu. The first step but requires a timeline. Which nobody ever knew, the timeline I was thinking is even shorter.

So around that time, my mother was asking, isn’t Kuyu has something else to say? She had smells something else. Since she knew Kuyu was also there when Gurl, Matleh, Kelah and Amy were here. So if Kuyu still here now and is already 6pm, so there could be something else rather than just for Hari Raya visits. So Kuyu started to get trembled. Then the knowing each other for more than 3 years came out. Being coupled for that period came out. Having to have a son-in-law came out. It is about time my father said. He said, he never know about our secrets, that we have been seeing each other all this while, but it is about time. He starts telling us his friends were already having married daughters. So this is about time for him too. He keeps telling us that. He asks Kuyu one question which made Kuyu trapped on my strategical planning. Muahahaha. What are you thinking when you came here and telling me you and my daughter is an item? (of course he was talking in BM, but then again it’s an English article, I just feel stupid if I speak in Malay. Muahahaha). So want it or not, like it or not, he have to say, ‘I wanted to marry her!’ And so and this point, all the jingling all the way in me and Kuyu’s heart start!

So my father asks him to bring his parents to my house. Ask his parents to talk about this further. Make them meet each other!

My journeys, to be continued...............................

(penat la plak…ehehe)

September 01, 2006

Ibu Mertua Ku...

Pengalaman dirumah ibu mertua. Hehehe...

The moment my feet touches the ground, i felt so cold and trembling. Everything seems to be moving around. My hands and feets are shaking. I can barely feel my body. I'm was not inside. I'm so scared and dont know what i will face at my Mother In Law 's house. Huhuhu...

Reminded by a friend of mine, there a funny thing happened before we reached to my mother in law's house. On moving our butts there, i as the bride and bridegroom, was feeling weird to drive by ourself to the house. So we ask a friend, matleh to drive for us. And then a friend told us, our car is too small, so we changed to new car of Myvi owned by Gurlz. And then when we already in and ready to go, we dont have any driver for the car, and need to shout(coz we r in a hurry) to matleh to change his position. Once we were ready to get going, my uncle drive by and ask us to join him since his car is bigger (Perdana). My face already sweating and we changed car again for the third time. Muahahaha... Dont know why it must happened like this. Hehe...

My husband was not my husband once my parents went home. Is not that he was not a good husband, is just that, all his friends are coming so he need to attend them and be as a good friend of everybody. He appreciate them very much. But I, so shy and scared to step my foot inside the house. Since everybody already went back. Only a few of my husband's friends left still eating. And at this point, i cant speak with his friends. They seems to be speaking different languange. And i dont want to spoil the joyfull thought of my husband. So I kept quite. And felt bored. But wht to do. I cant just simply ask them to leave. I dont want to do that. I appreciate them as well. But i cant join their conversation, i felt terible not to join them, but i just simply dont know wht to say. I'm sorry.

And when i was bored and so exhausted from the travelling from KL, my nieces and my nephews of my husband was running around me. They were calling me 'Pengantin' and pronounce it 'Penantin'. So funny and enjoyfull. I, fastly chose my favorate niece and nephew, Chika and Naqib. I like the way they teased me and laugh at me. And I just love it, where i could hug them and let them sit on my nap where everybody else failed to do it. They were like falling with their naughtiness on my presents. But not all the time la, but ok la...hehehe......I missed them a lot on writting this blog...hmmmm......

Also I missed kak ngah, thirah and her sister, siti sarah, apis, atip, naim, aiman and haziq. They were all my nieces and nephew now. :).....

So i start my agenda at the end of 4pm that day. Saturday the 26th of August 2006. All the friends are back. And leaving me and husband to the game.....hehehe..

After changing my cloths, praying, i went to the kitchen. Let see wht i can do to help? And i was helping my husband's 2nd-sister-in-law preparing for dinner. I am not sure where my husband went that time. But later i found out he was making the drinks for dinner. It was sweet of him and i felt so much energized to help out more. You know, you dont have to force your wife to be 'Rajin', by showing your effort, we feel so much easier to put our best effort too. ;)....

And the first day as the 'Pengantin' of the house, the next morning. I went down to the kitchen again and help them out for breakfast. After the breakfast, i went out helping my husband to clean up the mess from the wedding. It was nothing different from other 'Kenduri'. But the different thing is, i am the pengantin now. I am feeling so happy and love my hubby so much. As i see him doing all the work, i love him more and more and i thought that he look sexier day by day...hehehehe...It is tiring but it is worthifull...:)....And the after that, i took my shower and then went straight to prepare the dishes for lunch. Wow what a tight schedule. In between that, i played with naqib and the rest and i was so fun since this is the last day the will be here. Tomorrow gonna be a more restfull day as said by my mother in law. All of them will be leaving and the house will become so quite.

It is so true. The next day, the house is so quite compared to yestesday(which was on sunday). The same rutin ruled out on monday. Breakfast, cleaning up, lunch. And the different is, on the afternoon, we went to the relatives house. Wah, it starting from 3pm to 11pm that night. It was soooooo tiring. And we when straight to sleep that night.

In the morning, Tuesday. The last day i will be there. We woke up late since we were so tired. My mother in law already prepared breakfast for us. Oh my god. She was so sweet. She made Nasi Lemak and after enjoy the breakfast, me and my hubby when to the market to buy things for lunch. We cooked 'Ketam masak lemak' that day. It was a success, and i am happy to see my mother and father in law eat a lot that afternoon. And after lunch, my mother in law, i call her 'Mak', ask us to bring her to shopping. She need to buy a few things. It's not a big thing to us, and it was our pleasure to fullfill her request. So we went to Sg Besar and help her out in buying 'Kain Ela' for the grand children. And as i went there,i've found a sweet 'Kain Ela' for me and my hubby. So we bought a set for us. We didnt planned for any baju raya. So we appreciated the request. And now, we have bj raya too. :)...On the way back, we stop by my hubby mak teh's house to send the 'Kain' for her to sew. And when we got back to the house, Naqib and his sibbling is there. I fastly reconized his presents. I feel so happy to see him. But still, i missed him now.. You know this little guys naqib, he looks so sleepy everytime. He always got mad when i ask him, do he want to go to sleep. No, he is not sleepy actually, it's his eyes, it's 'KUYU'!!..Hahaha...Kecik2 dh kuyu. That's what i told my hubby. Since that is my hubby's nickname or knownname among the friends. hehe...

So on the way home. I realize something. We dont have the key to enter our house. I am so nervouse my hubby started to change his face. He's not disapointed at me, he cant, because it was his keys that is lost. I have my own key, but the thing is, my key is not complete. Since i expect that we will go to stay for a long time at his mother's home, i locked everything and we ended up cant enter the house that night on our arival. It was so frustrating and we're both very tired. So my husband decided to climb through the kithchen window. It seems so dangerous to me since in between the window and the driveway, there was a hole direct to the gound floor and we are at 6th floor. I cant imagine wht could happen. I forbid him from doing so and think about anything else but he scolded me and ask me to shut up. I really dont know wht to do, i felt my feet started to shake and i went away cant see what he is doing. I heard the kitchen window wracking and sounding like someone steping and holding to it. Then i saw my hubby's leg didnt touch the divider of the driveway anymore and the wracking sound stop. And i know, he made it inside the house and fastly went to the front door waiting for him to open the door. I look at his face deeply and got very sad and frustrating. What if he fell? What if i couldnt able to see him again? I know i got too emotional, but who wont got scared if she could be loosing something so precious in ur life? We talked about it later that night. But i cant still accept his action. I said to him, please dont do it again nexttime. We'll find another way, but just dont jeopardise his life for anything like that anymore. I couldnt take it. And he understand. Alhamdulillah....

And today. I'm working again. I start writting this article on wednesday only finished it today. I want to write it down, so i will remember this important moment of mylife. I think that is all for now. So bye.